Does Your Kid Make Constant Out-Of-Place Noises?

Lately parents have been complaining about kids who are just making incessant noise with their mouths.

Often this is non-stop chatter, but it’s also loudly humming, making siren sounds, clicking their tongue, making random sounds with their lips, etc.

It’s driving a lot of us kind of crazy! So let’s talk about what this is, why kids are doing it, and how to respond when it’s driving you up the wall.

Children will often do something called filtering.

Filtering is something we all do, most of us learn to do it very unobtrusively by time we’re adults.

A really common example of filtering is using a white noise machine to sleep, this is a perfect example of an external filter. The white noise creates a filter which blocks out all the other house noises around you so your brain can shut off and have a relaxation response.

Basically what happens when children are using their mouth to make lots of random sounds, they’re producing a sound with their mouth to act as the filter though, instead of using an external filter like a white noise machine.

This isn’t exclusive to sound though, we can filter physically too.

Children who tend to smash into things or who are pickers, nail biters, chew their lips- those are all examples of physical filtering.

I used a physical filter when I got my Covid jabs! I use a vibrator to on my neck to filter the pain signal from the needle to my brain. I’ll talk more about that in a few weeks when we talk about ways to help kids get their needles.

Sunglasses are an example of physical filtering.

You can taste filter, when you mix medicine in with chocolate milk? That’s a taste filter.

You eat a bitter veg by loading it underneath a pile of pasta on your fork? Filtering.

Basically it’s using one kind of input to mask or dilute another kind of input.

If a child is experiencing sensory overload OR sensory understimulation, they’ll filter to get the right level of input.

It’s actually amazing.

The problem is that their filtering can often be the source of OUR overstimulation!

How can we combat this?

Option 1: Provide your own filter!

Generally this looks like music or a podcast. A lot of people live with their TVs on all day as background noise, same idea. Ww’re just removing the screen aspect because that can cause its own stimulation issues.

My son loves to sing to filter and that’s amazing. He will sing the same MarioKart or Zelda theme song in his adorable tone-deaf voice all day long.

I can’t handle it.

We generally have a Spotify playlist playing in the background over our Amazon Echo system.

If he’s playing in his room, he has his own playlist he plays.

If we’re in the car, I always have music playing, often he’ll sing along or hum along. Which is way easier for me to handle than the same video game themes all day long. If I need quiet, like right now, I give him bluetooth headphones to listen through.

If we’re somewhere that it’s not appropriate for him to be wearing headphones, I either put on ear defenders or I use wax earplugs to dull the sound.

This way I’m not getting overstimulated by his filtering.

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Option 2: Filter ourselves

I like the soft wax ones that mould to your ear. I think my ears are an odd shape, ear plugs never fit in correctly, but the wax ones are just little balls of soft wax that you smush in there and it plugs all the holes.

I’ve been using Calmer ear filters from Flare Audi. Lately, I actually have them in my ears right now. These are just little silicone…I dunno how to describe them.


They fit in your ear and they help sound not to bounce around your ear so much so that it isn’t as annoying.

I get really overstimulated when my kids are playing loudly or whining or whatever.

It’s not because it’s too loud.

It’s because the way my ears are receiving the sound is overstimulating, so these help. Ear defenders work well too.

My kids know that if my ear defenders are on that I’m not available so they leave me alone to work or cook or whatever it is that I’m doing. It doesn’t completely remove the noise, but it dulls it enough that I can go about my day and still be responsive to them.

Option 3: Ask your child to stop or put a boundary around it.

Some kids don’t even realize that they’re doing it and when you ask them to stop, they do. You can also put a boundary around it.

I need quiet right now, so if you want to sing or make that sound you need to go do that in your room, outside, on the balcony, in the basement, the whatever! Just not here.

Then, enforce that boundary!

Take them to one of the spaces you mentioned that you can’t hear them.

It’s okay if your kids get upset when you put a limit around the sound.

Remember, the sound is what is helping them stay regulated, so when you take that away, you need to be prepared to deal with some dysregulation.

Often you can offer an alternative calming activity so that they can get back to just right.

When my kids are making incessant noise, that’s my red flag that they need some help co-regulating. I’ll pull out one of their calming activites or suggest they go do something I know is preferred that they find calming, and that generally resolves the non-stop sound, but by giving them space to make the sound somewhere where you just can’t hear it they often kind of do their filtering thing, it regulates them, and then after a while they come out and go on their way.

This is why your children are making non-stop sound. This should give ou some ideas of different ways you can address it while still meeting everyone’s needs and limitations.

Remember kids do well if they can.

If they’re doing something over and over and over and won’t heed your pleas for them to stop, it’s usually because it’s performing a function that is maintaining their regulation. We need to find a container for it, we need to find an alternative, or we need to replace it.

We can’t just make it disappear.

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7 thoughts on “Does Your Kid Make Constant Out-Of-Place Noises?”

    1. Mine is 10 years old- we have tried everything except meds. It can set off the whole family of 6 & drive us bonkers! We can’t even watch a movie or have a meal together. This is helpful to understand. Thank you.

      1. 14, and her current sound is a very sudden retch noise. Oh God it is awful. I remember she has made noises always, starting with a demonic sounding growl, moan, then she had a squeal which was the least abrasive, but only recently the vomit noise. It makes me so sick.

        1. She’s older than I generally work with- this article is aimed at kids 6 and under. If she’s continuing to do this at her age it’s likely that she’s neurodivergent and needs the support a diagnosis would provide.

  1. Hi, Our 3 year old has recently started making non stop siren sounds or tssk filler sounds, all the time. He starts screaming sirens from the moment he wakes up throughout the day and won’t go to sleep without these sounds. He fights sleep all the time, and we feel he does this to avoid sleep. Please help, this is very emotionally distressing.

    1. Hi Puma,

      To me this does sound like a rather extreme form of filtering. There’s a lot that could be going on to cause that, but I’m not going to ask you those personal details in a public forum like a blog comment. If you’d like to set up a consult with me, and then I can guide you better- please: do so here.

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Hi, I’m Allana. I teach parents of toddlers and preschoolers why their children are misbehaving and what to do about it without yelling, shaming, or using time-outs. When not teaching parents about behaviour you can generally find me chasing around my two boys, reading cheesy romance novels, or hanging out with my own parents.

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