You’ve followed all the advice, Googled ‘til your eyes crossed, tried every Pinterest-inspired “hack” you can find, but still your kid...
...is having massive meltdowns.
...has totally lost their “listening ears”.
...is rude and ignores boundaries.
...keeps lashing out.
...can’t cope with change.
...is destructive and defiant.
…you’re just barely keeping up with the latest demand for a snack, you’re tired, and are running on adrenaline and coffee trying to raise well behaved (and mostly lovable) tiny humans.
So when your little one takes forever to get things done, loses their cool, or morphs into full-on Darth Toddler, it can seem impossible to know what to do to manage and correct their behaviour.
Children do well if they can, and if they aren't it's because they don't have the skills to.
If all the interventions in the world aren’t improving your child’s behaviour—it’s for one simple reason:
What your child needs is to master one or more of the eight core mental skills (a.k.a: executive functioning skills) required to think, feel, and act sensibly.
The challenge is that your child wasn’t born with these skills. But they can learn them!
Picture this with me:
You’re rushing to get out the door with your 1 and 4 year olds when it hits you: your 4 year old has put on his socks and shoes, just as you asked. His shoes even match! As you rush around throwing last minute things in the bag you ask him to help his sister with her shoes, and when you come back—they’re on! The right feet!
As he helps his sister stand up she accidentally pushes him to the ground and you see a hand fly out. You brace for the scream—but it never comes:
“UGH, Sissy, please be careful, I don’t like it when you push me!”
Is this for real? Are you DREAMING?
Pulling up to play group you remind your son that there will be children who look his age, but are much younger than him and to be kind. As you walk inside it’s pure pandemonium, and you quickly retreat to your group of friends around the coffee maker. Every time a child screams you tense up and wait to hear the familiar screams of “MOM!!”, but every single time it’s someone else’s child.
You graciously accept compliments from the other parents about how kind, sweet, and what a great leader your child is. They ask you what your secret is—just a few months ago he was barrelling over other children, hitting when he wanted a toy, and melting down when it was time to leave.
When it comes time to leave, you give a five minute warning and ask your child to locate his shoes. You’re floored to see him indicate they’re together, and to the side of the gym.
Upon returning home your son requests a peanut butter sandwich, but you’re out of his preferred bread.
“That’s okay, maybe I’ll just have some soup then.” he replies.
You finally feel like you can breathe—the time and effort you spend getting through a day is greatly reduced, your son is happier and more confident in his abilities, and all it took was 10 to 30 minutes of play a day! You can’t wait to continue this process, and see him soar as he enters school and beyond.
Now YOU can equip your child with the skills they need to be awesome human beings.
Children WANT to do well when they face demands and challenges. But, they often lack the necessary skills. It’s our job as parents to help them build a foundation for knockout behaviour.
ParentAbility will teach you how to equip your child with the tools their minds need to be competent, confident and well-behaved. You’ll gain the system, tools, and support you need to parent with more confidence.
You’ll gain full access to the online learning portal full of video trainings and resources, including…
Identify and build the 8 mental skills that children use to behave well.
• The Skills Inventory to identify your child’s strongest and weakest skills.
• Skills-focused games and activities to build up weak skills while having fun in just 10 minutes a day!
We go “under the hood” to understand how your child’s brain processes information, makes decisions, uses emotions, and learns. You’ll always understand why your child is behaving, and what to do about it.
• The Stress Inventory to identify both your child’s and your family’s stressors.
• Stress-reduction and coping strategies to manage and remove stress behaviour.
Create inn-the-moment strategies that so that you can work through instances of misbehaviour without having to resort to time-outs, yelling, or threats.
• The Natural and Logical Consequences workshop to eliminate time-outs while teaching children to think critically about their actions and address behaviour in-the-moment.
• The Visuals Masterclass and Library to set up your home environment for independence, reduce power struggles, and support transitions.
Access to the private, members-only Facebook group for ongoing support and accountability.
Get answers to your questions during our twice monthly group coaching calls to share successes, troubleshoot challenges, and adapt any activity so it’s tailor-made for your family.
Topic-specific trainings and resources only available to members of ParentAbility:
This 5-video discussion guide will help you and your spouse put all the cards on the table and work through parenting concerns so that everybody is on the same page and confident.
For parents of children attending daycare, preschool, kindergarten or accessing intervention services. Introduce your child’s care team to ParentAbility principles and strategies to improve behaviour in the community as well as at home and maintain continuity of care.
Older siblings need to improve skills too! Involve the “big kids” in the house in your ParentAbility program with resources designed just for them.
Access our extensive library of guides, workshops, and guest-expert presentations on specific topics such as social skills, sensory processing, toilet training, safe use of digital technology and more.
Because you’re too busy?
Because your child is “so out of control?”
Because you’ve tried other “gentle” ways before?
Here’s what I can tell you. My program has worked for HUNDREDS of families from many different countries and many different backgrounds. It can work for you, too!
Hi, I’m Allana Robinson. I’m a Parenting Effectiveness Coach for parents of toddlers and preschoolers and I specialize in helping you understand why your child is misbehaving and what to do about it without yelling, shaming or using time-outs.
I’m also Mom to two wonderful kids. Using the knowledge and resources I’ve gained as a Registered Early Childhood Educator and Developmental Specialist, I put together ParentAbility to give parents an easy to digest, simple to implement, and wildly supportive program that will completely change how you view your child, how you parent, and therefore—your child’s behaviour. The most important thing I’ve learned over the years is that to inspire change in our children we need to change how we function as parents. I look forward to helping you on your journey to a happier, healthier relationship with your child!
This is a self-paced self-study program: there’s no ahead or behind. How you use the resources and when are entirely up to you. Generally with typical children I don’t expect to see real durable change before approximately the 3-month mark, assuming you implement daily. Members have seen improvements on a shorter timeline, but I consider those exceptional results.
Show up, do the work, put in the time with your kids—and you WILL see a reduction in the behaviours that drive you crazy. Can I guarantee this? No. Much of it depends on the amount and consistency of work you put in. But the tools, materials, and support you need are all there for you to succeed—you just need to apply them.
As soon as you reserve your spot in the program you’ll be automatically logged in to the members-only web portal. There you’ll view a welcome video with further directions, and links to access the members dashboard and to join the Inner Circle Facebook group.
You’ll also receive 3 emails: your receipt, your auto-generated portal password, and a welcome email with information to help you take full advantage of your membership.
This program is aimed at children 2 to 5 years old. The concepts are universal, however—and although the outcome of strong executive skills changes as a child ages, the foundational concepts do not. We have many parents who are using these concepts with their older children with great success.
It depends on the payment schedule you choose. Monthly members will have access for as long as they remain up to date on their fees, and will be removed from the portal and the Inner Circle Facebook group once they cancel. Yearly members will have access for 365 days from the date of payment unless they renew.